"if your someone they want, they will kiss your ass to no end, but the second they don't want you, you're treated like a worthless piece of shit."

I'd like to be given more graceful declines, certainly, but you can't seriously expect them to devote the same amount of time dealing with rejections that they do on acquiring talent. That's not a reasonable request to make of any employer that goes through hundreds of applicants for every firm hire.