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Since I haven't been commuting or going many places, my phone mostly sits idle for days, unused. I watch my wife and daughter constantly in front of theirs and I don't understand. I hate using those little screens with terrible input and fundamentally boring distracting apps.

The problem is though, I'm addicted to my computer. I'm not actually sure it's that much better.



Schedule a time where everyone agrees to not use screens. Dinner is a good starting point but ultimately, whatever works.

Practice conversing and talking.

Socialising is a muscle, and smartphones (and other devices) are a crutch that lets us avoid using that muscle.


We try hard to eat at the table together for all dinners and weekend breakfasts. Screens are strictly prohibited, even for guests. Some guests... hahaha, think this is quite the sacrifice. So what? My daughter has brought the convention to her group house.

When we eat out we try to do the same but because of the damn menus, translation app, etc. the screens still come out. We still are usually doing much better than the other tables in the restaurants. Helps to turn the devil device face down.

We think it is just so sad to see people out on a date, or even a clearly married older pair, each staring at their (own) screens.


Boards games and card games are great too.


It is the golden age of board gaming and it couldnt have come at a more crucial time.


What are some good ones that work for common people?


Board games fall into a few categories: https://www.gearhungry.com/types-of-board-games/

Then within those categories you have easier and harder games (and better made or less better).

Try a sampler platter and see what works and is fun.

Some specific suggestions:

Love letter, Takanoko, munchkin, elder sign.


Carcassonne, saboteur, splendor.


What about people who use smartphones for socialising?

Staying in touch with friends, finding new interesting people, browsing local events, deciding where to meet, etc.


Ultimately, if you are using the smartphone for a deliberate purpose, that's probably fine. Looking up a recipe, contacting a loved one, reading an ebook.

The problem is when you are just "on the phone", not really doing anything, not anything you planned to do, and not really getting anything done. Even this can be fine, as long as you go "I'd like to see whats on twitter for half an hour", rather than just opening things up and doing them because the algorithm pulls you in.


Do that in the other 22 hours of the day that isn't dinner.

There's nothing wrong with smartphones per se. It's that the smartphones become a crutch to avoid socializing in person. All the excuses come out to prevent that crutch from being removed.


Browsing through my distractions websites- HN, Twitter, Reddit, Dilbert - only take me about 15 minutes to note everything interesting. I do that thrice a day, and it’s more than enough.


With the kind of friends who won’t leave you alone for 2 hours to focus on something important, who needs enemies?


As an aspie, that sounds like torture, particularly if I'm actually hungry.


Same here. I don't understand why someone would willingly use a 6" screen when they have a glorious 24" and actual input devices available.


Because it's easier to use a 6" screen when you're laying on the couch or in bed.


Because computers are for nerds (the bigger it is, the MORE computer it is); only boys should be nerds; therefore, girls select against using computers. It sucks.


I still find it weird.

Using a mobile is like reading while looking through a toilet roll, and typing by using a straw in my mouth :P

I often get questions from people on WhatsApp saying "How can you reply so quickly??". Well duh... I use a real computer :) Anything I can do on the mobile I can do twice as fast on the computer.

For me it just 'hurts' when my brain cycles are forcibly wasted. Not just with this, also with those stupid mandatory trainings in work where the narrator is so slow to make sure even the most mediocre non-native numbnut can keep up. It just frustrates me so much when I'm forced to listen to that (usually I spend my time looking through the javascript to find a way to turn off the non-skip setting :P )

I actually got caught out by that once when an intern noticed I had only spent 1 hour on a course everyone else spent at least 3 hours on :P But I told her I was on a plane so when I finished it I was in a different time zone :D


It's much better just because your desktop it's yours. Even if it run Windows or OSX it's still give you less strict cage, surveil you less and give you more options.

Unfortunately even if you run a FLOSS OS you run on crapload of proprietary fw down to the CPU but again, you have some ability to move and act, on a mobile you are just free to do what the OEM decide you are allowed to, with it's right to change policy as it wish.


I love the form factor and input for reading fiction. Probably 90% of my phone screen time is that, which adds up to a significant time each week.


Have you tried an e-ink screen like the kindle? It's perfect for consuming fiction books


Yes, I own a kindle and rarely use it, because i much prefer the smaller form factor of phones for fictions.

Technical books are better on larger screens, so the Kindle only gets used if I read that kind of book. Though the Kindle has way too few pixels imo, so I often read these on my desktop or ipad too.




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