Traditionally, in Unix libc is part of the OS. This situation is different in Linux but Linux is an outlier here, if we look at various BSDs they keep libc in the same tree as kernel.
It has certainly evolved to be pretty complicated. You have whatever libc chooses to do with getaddrinfo(), nsswitch.conf, resolv.conf, systemd-resolved, various pieces of software (docker, vpns, wsl), and so on, all trying to control the local resolver.
Linux as a system is very ill-defined. I'd argue that GNU/Linux by definition contains glibc even if they are not in the same tree and musl based distributions are a variation which you could call "musl/Linux".
The tuples historically had 3 components--cpu, vendor and operating system. But especially as uclibc and musl became more widespread the last component is commonly split into kernel-libc. (I think this was originally extended for the benefit of Debian GNU/kFreeBSD.) The formal OS identifier for glibc-based Linux systems is "linux-gnu" (e.g. x86_64-pc-linux-gnu), and for musl "linux-musl" (e.g. aarch64-alpine-linux-musl).
Vendor is not very useful these days. It's common to see 3-tuples of cpu-kernel-libc, as opposed to 4-tuples or traditional 3-tuples. Sometimes the system is extended into, e.g., 5-tuples like cpu-vendor-kernel-libc-compiler. Autotools projects commonly have a bit of generated shell code for parsing tuples; it's quite complex owing to ~30 years of accumulated idiosyncrasies.
Because people treat libraries differently today than 30 years ago. We're used to the integration points for things being some form of blocking IPC (like dbus on GNU/Linux, COM, or syscalls) but libc is different.
libc is that service on the base OS. But rather than connecting to an OS service and passing messages back and forth you dlopen and setjmp to do the same thing. On GNU/Linux libc isn't an interface to the NSS service, libc is the NSS service. That fact that you access it via your linker is just an implementation thing.
The kernel itself actually exposes integration points this way too with lib-vdso! The kernel will actually just stick it's own routines in your programs memory space so that you can avoid the syscall overhead for certain calls.
That's up to your distro technically. DNS queries that use glibc (so everything basically) parse /etc/nsswitch.conf and follow the path of NSS modules which can do whatever they want to produce a name.
The resolve module provided by systemd talks to systemd-resolved but the dns module parses /etc/resolv.conf and does the resolution itself.
In fact, I thought Node already depended on c-ares, why is it failing on this?