I think the point is that Bend in a much higher level than C++. But to be fair: I also may be missing the point!

The point is that Bend parallelizes everything that can be parallelized without developers having to do that themselves.

here is the same loop finishing in one second on my laptop, single-threaded, in a very high-level language, q:

  q)\t sum til floor 2 xexp 30
  1031

I didn't know happiness until I had a daughter. I thought I had a pretty happy life until she was born.

After that, i learned to value my lonely hours :)

I can recall an emotion from childhood. It's an uncontrollable burst of happiness, positive energy, anticipation, and gittiness, all rolled into one. It's that feeling you got when a friend called you up and told you they just got that one toy that you guys have been fawning over for months. You ask your mom if you can go, and she says yes. You quickly get dressed and try to walk quickly to your friend's house. You find yourself running unconsciously. You're bursting with anticipation and joy. Your mind is doing laps and your body can't keep up.

I haven't had that feeling in a long long time.

Then, my kids were born. As they grow up, I see them experiencing the types of joy and happiness as I have described above. I see them laugh uncontrollably. I see them explode with joy over the smallest of positive surprises. I see how they discover the world and experience new pleasant experiences. I see their emotions when they unbox a birthday gift. I literally feel a portion of it. It's incredible!

That feeling is back.

As the father of two girls, I relate to all of this. I'm sure you've heard this 1000 times, but they grow up fast, so enjoy they time you get with your daughter.

A random stranger once shared this piece of wisdom with me: "the days are long but the years are short".

Sometimes at the end of a long day I try to remember this :)

The lonely hours are valuable, and after you have kids, rare.

But, speaking as one who is closer to the end of the process than the beginning, my biggest regret is that so often I didn't take the time or make the effort to give them love and attention when I could have.

A neutral third party to the dispute? Serving as a mediator?

If you can't argue with him, maybe suggesting that someone, other them you guys, should hear your and his complaints and problems. Like a marriage counseling, i guess.

For me, its the other way around: I think I'm ok with my job history/pedigree, and when I check HN, it feels like I'm the dumbest person in my area. It seems like I'm not even trying.

I probably should have considered that perspective. To be clear, I often feel behind on my current state vs HN comments. Was mentioning that, for certain topics, I felt like a big contributor. I don't expect to always be on top, but (very) occasionally feeling like a thought leader here was encouraging.

Great observation, and appreciate it.

I absolutely relate to this. But hey, knowing that there are other engineers out there feeling the same thing when they read HN makes me feel better. So, thanks.

Maybe NK had this exact same question

There is a startup in Brazil that promote DIY Assistive Projects: https://www.meviro.org

Read about the T-Shaped profile mentioned on the Valve's Employee Handbook[1]. It's a nice concept on how to know when to learn something new and when to learn more about something that you already know.

And calm down: HN users are really heterogeneous. Trying to be like everyone here is impossible. Even you find someone with the same profile as you, it is a nice thing to know that there is something new to learn. A bigger problem is when you don't have anything new to learn.

[1]http://www.valvesoftware.com/company/Valve_Handbook_LowRes.p...

Edit: And answering your question: I feel overwhelmed when I learn somenthing new here, and there is already another article telling me that what I learned is obsolete.

Same here. And he looks like a friend of mine.

CGNAT prevents users from hosting personal services - its a PitA.

Yeah, I just discovered my ISP (WebPass) has exhausted their IPv4 allocation [1] and is transitioning residential customers to private IPv4 addresses, and I'm not really sure how to set up a VPN on IPv4 now. I guess I need to set up a tunnel over IPv6 somehow?

1. https://webpass.net/blog/ipv4-exhausted

I (hope to) see CGNAT as the stick - with v6 being the carrot that allows point-to-point apps and personal hosting to work reliably again.

That requires the ISP to offer v6, of course. I'm on Comcast which, say what you will about them, has been years ahead of everyone else for carrier-grade v6 support.